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Creating a personality with profiles

So you’ve finally decided you want to make money talking sexy on the phone. You’ve found TalkToMe.com and want to create your first profile. Well before you do, we have some information that will help you get the most out of your profile.

Decide who you want to be!

Since you are creating a profile, you get to play any role you like. At TalkToMe.com you can create multiple profiles, so you are not limited to being just Plain Jane, unless of course that’s who you want to be! Take some time to think about what types of callers you want to cater to. Are you the cute girl next door, the sultry MILF, the dominant mistress? You can choose to be any and all.

If you already know what type of character you’ll be playing you’re ready to get started, if not I suggest you do a little investigative research. Find sites on the internet that cater to the types of characters you would be interested in portraying. Watch movies, read books, even adult videos can help solidify your character. Do your homework and build a persona that men will find exciting.

Build your persona

TalkToMe.com allows you to add photos, a summary and description to your profile and you should use this to your advantage. Lets assume you are playing the role of a sexy seductress. You may want to go with the dark haired lithe raven look. If that’s not how you look in real life, you will want to search the internet for royalty free photos (or alternatively pay someone for photos) of comely brunette women. Find an image that represents the look you are trying to achieve and post that as your profile picture. It’s important that you DO NOT just copy pictures from other sites on the web. That is copyright infringement and you can get into a world of hurt from it. If you can’t find something free, pay the few bucks it will cost to buy a photo.

Next you’ll want to write a compelling summary for your profile. The summary text is display on all the listing pages, and it’s what the men see first. You’ll want it to be short and sweet, something that grabs their attention and makes them click through to see your profile. You don’t need to sell them, just peak their interest. Something like “Cum find the woman of your dreams” or “See what you’ve been missing in a woman“. Short and to the point.

Finally you get to sell yourself. Writing your description can be a daunting task. You want to tell the guys all about you and why they should call you. What about you makes you unique and better than the others. Remember you’re creating a persona here, so have fun and be creative with the character you’re trying to invent. Here’s an example of a short description that you might use to sell your profile

We find ourselves alone together for a few minutes, in those few minutes anything at all can happen between us. Whether your fantasies are soft and romantic, or raunchy and fast, I am up for it. I am the woman you need to put the enthusiasm for phone entertainment back into you. Why not experience me and see that you can have it all, beauty, brains, and a voice that will make you explode.

A description like that is sure to get a man’s attention!

If you can create multiple characters, you can appeal to a greater variety of callers.

Be prepared to roleplay various scenarios they might like to discuss, including the following popular topics:

Sex alone (masturbation), exhibitionism, or voyeurism.
Sex in public, outside or some place where there’s a risk of getting caught.
Sex with more than one person or a group of partners.
Sex in an exotic location, a club, or in a kinky setting.
Sex by submission, being taken sexually, being possessed or dominated.
Sex by domination, being in complete control or dominating a sex partner.
Sex with a model, celebrity or fictional character.
Sex with a fixation on items (lingerie, fetish accessories, toys, food, etc).
Sex positions or approaches that are new, taboo or unconventional.
Sex with another woman or man (bisexual encounters).

Tweak!

You are never limited with TalkToMe.com profiles. If you aren’t getting the results you hoped for, come back and make changes. You can update your profile as often as you like.

Now get started building your profile, and most of all have fun with it!

Getting started with your first call.

Your first call can be a little intimidating but with the help of our guide you should make it through painlessly and maybe even have some fun!

A Typical Caller

People who browse the internet reflect their own set of demographics. Our callers are generally college educated, successful male professionals with above average income. In addition to sexy talk your clients may want to discuss non-sexual topics as well. Being a good listener and asking good questions will increase the time that your clients will want to spend on the phone with you.

Phone Sex Is Like Sales

Phone sex is selling conversation, fantasy & role play. Talkers are pleasant, down-to-earth, girls-next-door — real people with enticing and provocative personalities. Unlike other professional phone sex businesses where a central operator answers and redirects the caller to an unknown voice, TalkToMe.com callers get the real deal: you, your sexy voice and sexually explicit words, your imagination and charming personality.

Prepare Yourself

Since you are going to be on the phone for hopefully a while, make sure you’ve gone to the bathroom prior to taking the call. Pour yourself a cup of tea or coffee, and find a comfortable place to sit. Be sure you have access to your PC since it will provide you with a wealth of information about the call and the caller.

The first thing you have to do when starting a phone sex chat is too relax — whatever you’re feeling will come across in your voice, so try to project calm confidence. If you feel nervous or uptight then the other person will sense it. Visualize the person you’re talking to, think about what they look like and concentrate on your sexual attraction to them.

Tips for Your First Call

If you are smiling when you talk, your callers will know that you are smiling and it will lift their mood. Remember that many callers might be nervous and it could be their first time having a phone sex chat.

Try not to rush things when you start to talk, try to enjoy every moment as it will build up the sexual excitement between you both. Also don’t be shy!! To have the best phone sex you both need to ask or find out what turns each other on. You will have to find their need to fulfill their needs. So ask them what they like, what gets them going and don’t be shy to say what turns you on either. The more honest you are during your phone sex conversation the better it will be.

Once you know what turns your phone sex partner on, you can begin teasing your partner with the fantasy of what you would like to do to them or what you would like them to do with you if you were together right there and then.

It is important to give plenty of details as this helps “setting the scene”, this is because as you are describing the fantasy the person your chatting to is visualizing what you are saying. So the more details you give the more excited your partner will become.

Make sure you say how you are feeling. If you are feeling horny and turned on then tell them as it will excite them in turn. When you start to get wet or hard let them know, they may want to hear just how turned on you are. Men especially like to hear how much a woman is turned on so again make sure you give plenty of details. Tell them how your body is reacting to them. Let you partner hear you moan and orgasm.

Use your imagination during your phone sex conversation, it is an ideal opportunity to chat about your ultimate fantasies and desires, whether your fantasy is just with them or a threesome. You could use your phone sex chat to talk about a sexual act that you fantasize about but you don’t want to do for real such as anal sex or lesbian sex. This way you are exploring your fantasy without any risk of consequence. You should also feel free to use sex toys to heighten your phone sex. While you are using your sex toy you can be imagining it is your partner teasing you. Also you will find that the sound of you using your toy will turn your partner on even more.

There are lots of things that you could or should say during phone sex for the best kind of honest sex. The first thing you should say is hello and smile as you say it so the other person can really tell how pleased you are to be chatting with them. A smile can be sensed by the other person and it will relax both of you.

Then you must say how you are feeling whether it is horny, kinky or excited to be talking to them. Ask them how they are feeling too as this will guide you as to what to say next. The next thing to say is where you are i.e.: your bedroom and what you are doing i.e.: playing with a sex toy. This will give the other person a mental picture of what you are up to and try to give as many details as you possibly can to help them visualize it. i.e.: I am lying on my bed wearing a white lace bra and panties. I have pulled my panties to one side and I am stroking myself with a nice realistic looking vibrator. You can then ask them what they are wearing and what they are doing.

Next you need to find out what turns them on, what they fantasize about, so you know what to have phone sex about. It is no good if you just try and chat about what interests you only as the other person might get bored of the conversation.

Then your body starts to react to the phone sex chat then tell the other person, describe what is happening to your body so that they know that they are turning you on. i.e.: my nipples are getting hard and they are tingling and my fingers are getting wet with my juices. Describing how your body is reacting is a turn on in itself so don’t be shy and let them know.

Don’t be embarrassed about talking dirty to the other person if they like it. There are two ways you can talk dirty, you can do it mildly as in, “I want to make love to you and make you hard until you reach orgasm” or you can talk really dirty as in, “ I want to fuck you and make your hard throbbing dick cum all over my face”. There is no wrong way to having phone sex, it all depends on what you and the other person likes. The only way you can find out what your phone sex partner likes is by asking them.

Always say your phone sex partners name during your conversation as it makes it more personal whether it is their real name or they may like to be called master/mistress or slut. Try to compliment the other person if you are having a good time i.e.: god you are turning me on so much, I haven’t felt this excited in a long time” but don’t forget to give the details i.e.: you are making my smooth pussy so wet and my nipples are aching for you.

Have Fun!

The most important thing to remember during your phone sex chat is to have fun, enjoy it. More and more people are enjoying phone sex every day, and with the help of our Phone Sex Tips, you should be able to enjoy, be relaxed about it and have a good time.

What you’ll need to become a Talker

OK, so you’ve decided that becoming a phone sex operator is right up your alley. Great now what?

Well before you go jumping in with both feet, it might be a good idea to see if you’re prepared for the job at hand. In this post I’m going to outline some basic essentials that you’ll need to start your business as a Phone Sex Operator (PSO).

Let’s break this down into sections listing both required items and optional items that will make your business easier to run.

And now onto our list!

Required Equipment:

A phone and a phone number. This goes without saying, but you will need a phone to become a PSO. While you can most likely get away with using a cell phone, a hard wired land line is your best bet. This way you won’t have to worry about bad reception, signal loss, dead batteries, or outages. You should also consider getting a line with no call waiting, forwarding or answering services. many companies will require this anyway, so you might as well buck up and do it right from the start.
A Computer. That’s right, you need a computer to work as a PSO. Whichever company you work for, they will require you to login to their systems via computer to track your calls, monitor your availability, provide you with stats, and much more. Besides a computer is useful for marketing yourself, and creating accounts on Phone Sex websites like TalkToMe.com.
A high-speed Internet connection. While I’ve seen PSO’s use slow modem connections, it just doesn’t make sense in this day and age. A good reliable high speed Internet connection will save you hours of frustration, and allow you the ability to work much faster, saving you time and money.
Web or HTML editing software. You’ll want to have some way of designing web pages to help you promote yourself. Hiring someome to do this work can be very costly, so learning how to do it yourself is a good idea. If you already know how to code in HTML, you can use a basic text editor. If you are not familiar with HTML or webdesing, then something more robust would be required such as DreamWeaver.
Photo editing software. Again, to help promote yourself, you’ll need to upload photos to entice your customers. Basic photo editing software will be essential for this. There are free photo editors available on-line, or you can splurge on any number of well know packages such as Photoshop.

Optional Equipment:

A digital Camera. If you plan on uploading your actual photos, then having a good digital camera is a must. Many PSO’s purchase photo sets to maintain their anonymity and security, while others proudly show themselves. If you are an attractive woman, and don’t mind being seen on the internet this is a good marketing strategy, as man like to see photos of real women. An alternative to a digital camera is hiring a photographer, which can get expensive quickly.
A webcam. More an more phone sex sites are incorporating webcams into their business models. If you don’t mind showing yourself on camera for the viewing pleasure of your patrons, this is another outlet for making money. This obviously isn’t for everyone, but if you think this would work for you a webcam is essential.
A phone headset. While not required, having a good quality phone headset will make your life easier. It allows you the freedom to move around and keeps your hands free for other uses. If you do get a headset, be sure to get a good quality one. Cheap ones don’t last long, and they aren’t as comfortable as the higher quality headsets.

Well that should be enough to get you started.

So You Want To Be A Talker?

You’ve heard the ads “Make $5,000 a week working at home!” or “I bought a house by talking on the phone!” or

Many women enter into the world of Phone Sex as a way to pay the bills, obtain financial freedom, and become financially independent. You may have heard stories of housewives, college students, even retirees, buying new cars, vacations, jewelry and more while working from home doing phone sex. Many women view it as either a degrading, moralistically evil form of subjugation, or as a way to make quick easy cash. I can tell you from experience neither of these views are accurate.

As a phone sex operator, you’ll have to learn what your caller really wants withing the first few seconds of the conversation. Sure there is dirty talk required, but that’s not the only thing men are looking for in a conversation. Being a good conversationalist is very important but being a good listener is even more important. You need to know what your caller is looking for if you have any hope of making money. You also need a thick skin. If you are easily offended you won’t last long. You may be asked to deal with subject matter that many people would find patently offensive, you will probably hear things that might make your stomach turn. You’ll need to be able to hear things and say things that you’ve never heard or spoke before. You need to be a therapist, and an actress all at the same time.

Phone sex is not a get rich quick scheme. It takes lots of hard work just like any other job. You will be an independent contract so it’s up to you to handle the finances, pay the taxes, keep records, market yourself, do promotions, maintain a schedule, keep notes, essentially you’ll need to be a jack of all trades. In the beginning you’ll probably make very little income, and you’ll probably have some expenses to worry about. If you can hang in long enough to start turning a profit, you might make enough to supplement your day job. If you are persistent, and have a good business sense, then and only then do you stand a chance of making some decent money. That being said, it’s really nice to be able to achieve financial freedom, be your own boss, set your own hours, and if you’re like me, do it all while releasing your kinky imagination, and giving pleasure to others.

So with all that being said, I figured I’d give you a little pros and cons list to help you decide if being a phone sex operator is right for you.

Pros to being a phone sex operator:

You have the ability to achieve financial freedom & independence.
You are your own boss.
You can set your own hours.
You can work in your pajamas.
You can have fun talking to people about their sexual fantasies.

Cons to being a phone sex operator:

You’ll have to work hard.
You’ll need to have good business skills.
You’ll be responsible for your own marketing and promotion.
You’ll have expenses to cover.
You may have to talk to people who aren’t fun (at least initially).
You’ll need to be a good talker, and an even better listener.
It may take quite a while before you make any real money.

So now that you have the dirt on what being a phone sex operator is really about, only you can decide if becoming a phone sex operator is right for you!

Grow a base of repeat customers

One of the most important aspects of being a phone sex operators is to grow a base of repeat customers who know they can call you for whatever they need. There are some very important ways to accomplish this.

Find out what the caller wants.

Most talkers state that keeping a caller on the phone for the longest amount of time is the most important, so my earning will be higher. I could not disagree with this more. My goal is to make the customer happy. If he wants to chat about his daily life, his job, things that are bothering him I am happy to oblige, but if he is looking for a quick and inexpensive jerk off call I will not try and prolong the call. If this is what is wants, fine. My goal is to please the caller and have him call me back. Guys don’t want to feel like you’re counting minutes and dollar signs. Guys want to feel like they’re making a connection. Callers don’t like to feel “fleeced” for more time than they’d like to spend. If you can succeed in making that connection, you’ll have a loyal customer for life.

Make your caller feel like his is your #1 customer.

OK this is basic customer service, but if your caller hangs up feeling like he received preferential treatment he will be more likely to call you again, rather than searching out a different talker. Making a caller feel important doesn’t take a lot of effort. Some basic courtesies are all that are necessary. When you are on a call focus on him, don’t get involved in other distractions like watching TV, answering emails, or doing your wash while on a call. Callers are aware of these distractions and will not take you seriously. Before finishing a call ask the caller what he liked and didn’t like about the call. Getting feedback not only helps you, it shows the caller that you are interested in what was important to him. Message the caller after the call to thank him for taking the time to call you and not someone else.

Take detailed notes on every caller.

The site allows you to do this. When the caller calls you again refer to your notes and see if you’ve written any notes to help you provide customized service. This can enable a call to go longer or it can show that you KNOW who you are speaking to by ask going right to what he likes. Your notes will tip you off to your callers’ needs and make him feel special, like you remembered him. It’s always flattering for a guy, when a girl remembers specific details about him & his interests & the last time you spoke.

Stay fresh in their minds.

It’s important that you keep are present in their minds. Men love to know that you miss them. It helps them to feel special and important. There are several ways you can accomplish this. One of the easiest ways is to send a an email from time to time, reminding him of the last time you talked and how much you miss him. Using your notes you took notes right? you can create an email that discusses the highlights of your last call. A simple email every so ofter does wonders, and reminds the caller that they want to speak with you again. Be careful not to be too enthusiastic about this. You don’t want your well crafted message to be considered spam. Start out by emailing your clients a week after your last call. If they don’t respond wait a little longer before the next email. As you become familiar with your callers, you will get a feel for how often you can message them without becoming a pain in the ass.

Make your callers your #1 priority, not the money you can make on them. If you keep this in mind you will soon find you have a growing number of callers to keep your business alive and well.

Use Direct Connect to Enhance Your Profile

Not sure how to finish your profile? Trying to make up your mind about the kind of callers you’d like to market yourself to? Get your feet wet on TalkToMe.com with Direct Connect. For a discounted rate, Callers choose to speak with a random Talker selected by our computer. This is a great way to explore various features at TalkToMe.com while promoting yourself to Callers you connect with. Use feedback from these conversations to tailor your profile to your preferred client base — add text, photos and voice clips to entice the Callers you enjoy most, at higher rates for your personal attention.

Tips to Make Your TalkToMe.com Profile Stand Out

New customers sign up every day — make sure they find your listing by creating a unique profile highlighting the best you have to offer!

Nice head or body shots – If you’re not good with cameras, have a professional photo taken (or let a friend help you).
Private galleries – Guys LOVE photos, so create a few galleries showcasing your best features, your strongest characters, your favorite fantasies and fetishes… Get a little wild, your private galleries require password approval so you only show your hottest photos to the clients you know will appreciate them! Use your Free private galleries to attract new customers, and use your Paid private galleries for custom photo shoots for established clients, or to reward loyal Callers with explicit photos they can’t find anywhere else.
Catchy headline – Try to refrain from the obvious “Hi” or “Call now” and instead come up with a short, interesting phrase that with pique a caller’s curiosity and make them want to know more about you. Change your headline often to keep your profile fresh & exciting!
Personal info – Here’s your shot to boast a little about what you do well, and how much fun you are to talk to. Check out the competition! Other Talker profiles can provide great inspiration — particularly other Talkers with good feedback & reviews.

Tips for Building a Community

Be specific – Many callers have particular interests they’re looking to indulge. Get personal and describe your turn-ons in as much detail as possible to attract new clients who appreciate all you have in common. Plus, the more information you give, the more your callers will have to talk to you about!

Open up – Use your natural warmth and kindness to reach out to callers about their lives, their hopes and their dreams. Phone sex is only one way to connect — lots of callers simply want a friendly voice to share their day with, someone compassionate and supportive, who knows how to listen. Build phone friendships to create a base of loyal, repeat customers.

Take the Bull by the horns – TalkToMe.com callers fill out profiles listing their preferences & desires. Email or leave Voicemail for prospective clients, and appeal to their favorite erotic endeavors. Tailor private galleries for the most popular activities, and add new pics often to keep customers coming back again and again.

Tips for Marketing Your Profile

Nothing comes easy — you need to market your listing as you would any other business. While we’ll be sure to advertise TalkToMe.com extensively, you will need to do your part promoting your own unique talents that will set you apart from the pack & win you a loyal following of callers. The formula is simple: the more you put in, the more you’ll get out.

Add a “Call Now” button to your own website or any website where potential customers might find you. Add it to your email signature in all your correspondence, if possible.
Print business cards and hand them out to everyone you meet: friends, family, acquaintances, people you meet out shopping or in bars or at sporting events. Attend Adult shows, men’s club events, porn star appearances, sex shop openings — anything related to your interests, is a possible way to connect with potential customers. You can even create special flyers or brochures with photos and personal information — everything in your profile, including how to call you, of course.
Find free publicity. Encourage your customers to refer you to others. Attend local radio station events and chat up the DJ’s, who are usually bored & tired of repeating the same info over and over. Tell them about your services — try offering to perform a PG-rated “sample” and you might even get on the air!
Get your info out there — Google and Yahoo have marketing plans for just about every budget, and you can also take advantage of the slew of online yellow pages and business listings. Backpage is a great place to advertise, or anywhere with escort listings or erotic advertisements for men seeking sexual services. Don’t forget to keep a current ad on Craig’s List, too, and of course having your own personal website for each profile also provides a great way to ensure the right Callers can find you.
Blogs, forums, message boards, community service reviews… these are all great places to advertise. Don’t just copy the same info again and again — cross-posting is lazy and people tend to ignore all-purpose marketing. Instead, tailor your listings for each publication, being as specific as possible with regards to fetishes, fantasies and personal experiences.
Update your profile regularly, and link to social networking sites like Facebook and Twitter. Add new photos as often as you can, daily if possible, to keep customers checking back again and again.
Reach customers who aren’t online! Place a short classified ad in your local paper or in publications that cater to the area(s) of your expertise. Run ads in a specialized sex, swinging and/or fetish publications. Most classified sections include a “Services Provided” section that might accept ads for live talk. You’ll never know unless you ask!
Don’t get discouraged! When you’re knocking on so many doors, eventually one’s gonna open. Keep promoting yourself and trust that with each satisfied customer, your business gains more momentum. Stay positive and open for good things to come!