Getting started with your first call

Your first call can be a little intimidating but with the help of our guide you should make it through painlessly and maybe even have some fun!

A Typical Caller

People who browse the internet reflect their own set of demographics. Our callers are generally college educated, successful male professionals with above average income. In addition to sexy talk your clients may want to discuss non-sexual topics as well. Being a good listener and asking good questions will increase the time that your clients will want to spend on the phone with you.

Phone Sex Is Like Sales

Phone sex is selling conversation, fantasy & role play. Talkers are pleasant, down-to-earth, girls-next-door — real people with enticing and provocative personalities. Unlike other professional phone sex businesses where a central operator answers and redirects the caller to an unknown voice, TalkToMe.com callers get the real deal: you, your sexy voice and sexually explicit words, your imagination and charming personality.

Prepare Yourself

Since you are going to be on the phone for hopefully a while, make sure you’ve gone to the bathroom prior to taking the call.  Pour yourself a cup of tea or coffee, and find a comfortable place to sit.  Be sure you have access to your PC since it will provide you with a wealth of information about the call and the caller.

The first thing you have to do when starting a phone sex chat is too relax — whatever you’re feeling will come across in your voice, so try to project calm confidence. If you feel nervous or uptight then the other person will sense it. Visualize the person you’re talking to, think about what they look like and concentrate on your sexual attraction to them.

Tips for Your First Call

If you are smiling when you talk, your callers will know that you are smiling and it will lift their mood. Remember that many callers might be nervous and it could be their first time having a phone sex chat.

Try not to rush things when you start to talk, try to enjoy every moment as it will build up the sexual excitement between you both. Also don’t be shy!! To have the best phone sex you both need to ask or find out what turns each other on. You will have to find their need to fulfill their needs. So ask them what they like, what gets them going and don’t be shy to say what turns you on either. The more honest you are during your phone sex conversation the better it will be.

Once you know what turns your phone sex partner on, you can begin teasing your partner with the fantasy of what you would like to do to them or what you would like them to do with you if you were together right there and then.

It is important to give plenty of details as this helps “setting the scene”, this is because as you are describing the fantasy the person your chatting to is visualizing what you are saying. So the more details you give the more excited your partner will become.

Make sure you say how you are feeling. If you are feeling horny and turned on then tell them as it will excite them in turn. When you start to get wet or hard let them know, they may want to hear just how turned on you are. Men especially like to hear how much a woman is turned on so again make sure you give plenty of details. Tell them how your body is reacting to them. Let you partner hear you moan and orgasm.

Use your imagination during your phone sex conversation, it is an ideal opportunity to chat about your ultimate fantasies and desires, whether your fantasy is just with them or a threesome. You could use your phone sex chat to talk about a sexual act that you fantasize about but you don’t want to do for real such as anal sex or lesbian sex. This way you are exploring your fantasy without any risk of consequence. You should also feel free to use sex toys to heighten your phone sex. While you are using your sex toy you can be imagining it is your partner teasing you. Also you will find that the sound of you using your toy will turn your partner on even more.

There are lots of things that you could or should say during phone sex for the best kind of honest sex. The first thing you should say is hello and smile as you say it so the other person can really tell how pleased you are to be chatting with them. A smile can be sensed by the other person and it will relax both of you.

Then you must say how you are feeling whether it is horny, kinky or excited to be talking to them. Ask them how they are feeling too as this will guide you as to what to say next. The next thing to say is where you are i.e.: your bedroom and what you are doing i.e.: playing with a sex toy. This will give the other person a mental picture of what you are up to and try to give as many details as you possibly can to help them visualize it. i.e.: I am lying on my bed wearing a white lace bra and panties. I have pulled my panties to one side and I am stroking myself with a nice realistic looking vibrator. You can then ask them what they are wearing and what they are doing.

Next you need to find out what turns them on, what they fantasize about, so you know what to have phone sex about. It is no good if you just try and chat about what interests you only as the other person might get bored of the conversation.

Then your body starts to react to the phone sex chat then tell the other person, describe what is happening to your body so that they know that they are turning you on. i.e.: my nipples are getting hard and they are tingling and my fingers are getting wet with my juices. Describing how your body is reacting is a turn on in itself so don’t be shy and let them know.

Don’t be embarrassed about talking dirty to the other person if they like it. There are two ways you can talk dirty, you can do it mildly as in, “I want to make love to you and make you hard until you reach orgasm” or you can talk really dirty as in, “ I want to fuck you and make your hard throbbing dick cum all over my face”. There is no wrong way to having phone sex, it all depends on what you and the other person likes. The only way you can find out what your phone sex partner likes is by asking them.

Always say your phone sex partners name during your conversation as it makes it more personal whether it is their real name or they may like to be called master/mistress or slut. Try to compliment the other person if you are having a good time i.e.: god you are turning me on so much, I haven’t felt this excited in a long time” but don’t forget to give the details i.e.: you are making my smooth pussy so wet and my nipples are aching for you.

Have Fun!

The most important thing to remember during your phone sex chat is to have fun, enjoy it. More and more people are enjoying phone sex every day, and with the help of our Phone Sex Tips, you should be able to enjoy, be relaxed about it and have a good time.